First dance songs are HARD. I remember trying to pick our first dance song for our wedding. It was back in the day when CDs were still a thing, and I was splayed out on the floor of the living room in our little apartment, surrounded by my piles and piles of CD books, popping them in and out of the player one at a time, searching for the perfect song.
I’d further complicated the matter by also searching for modern songs for the processional and recessional, our entrance to the reception, and various other events throughout the evening that I wanted to be sure had the perfectly selected soundtrack. Overwhelming would be an understatement. But music has always been such a big part of my life that it was really important to me to pick the right songs, even if no one was listening but me.
I had a couple of songs I was really hung up on, but hubs (who didn’t have much of an opinion on anything for the wedding, which is normal), pulled something unexpected out and asked if it could be our first dance song. (Spoiler Alert: it’s in the list! )
When I met my husband, I was fresh out of a very tumultuous relationship that had left me fairly torn up. I managed to keep this handsome, kind man at a distance for quite a few months, while I waited for the inevitable other shoe to drop. It never did. (Since we’re talking about love songs, Ryan Cabrera’s “On The Way Down” is my song for this one.) He waited patiently for me to come around, which I finally did. (Obviously, since we’re married!)
Our first dance song-Breathless by Better Than Ezra-perfectly sums up where I was when he found me, and exactly who he was, and still is for me–a safe place, filled with unconditional love. I still have yet to see Better Than Ezra live in concert, but it’s on the list. Still hoping they make it somewhere near me before they retire!
In working so many weddings over the years, I often hear the same first dance songs repeatedly. They’re usually one of the usual suspects for wedding songs, like At Last by Etta James, or You Are The Best Thing by Ray LaMontagne. Don’t get me wrong, those are great songs. But I love when a first dance song comes on and it’s unique and different, and not something I’ve heard someone use before. Songs that make people stop and listen, because they haven’t heard it on the radio a hundred times, or if they have, they never thought of it in that context before.
Here are 5 songs that would make great, unique, crowd-stopping first dance songs for your wedding:
‘Til Kingdom Come – Coldplay
“In your tears and in your blood, In your fire and in your flood, I hear you laugh, I heard you sing, I wouldn’t change a single thing.”
Sea of Love – Cat Power
“Come with me, My love, To the sea, The sea of love”
Lucky – Jason Mraz & Colbie Caillet
“And so I’m sailing through the sea, To an island where we’ll meet, You’ll hear the music fill the air, I’ll put a flower in your hair”
Home – Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros
“Well, holy moly me oh my You’re the apple of my eye Girl, I’ve never loved one like you”
Breathless – Better than Ezra
“I’ll never judge you I can only love you Come now running headlong Into my arms”
I just came across this awesome infographic on Wedding Paper Divas, and had to share it! I am shocked to read that 68% of people didn’t hire a planner AT ALL– not even someone to handle day-of coordination. That’s brave, and I’m not just saying that because I’m a planner! And then, they said they spent the equivalent amount of time as a part-time job on the planning process. Whew!
What’s the one thing in here that surprises you? Comment below!
I spend so many of my days working on weddings–planning weddings, talking to couples, working with vendors. It’s really easy to get caught up in the business aspects of things, and forget why I’m really here–to help two people who love each other truly relax and enjoy their wedding weekend with their guests, and make it memorable for them!
Which also makes me think, this must happen to the couples as well. It’s been a *few* years since I got married on Bald Head Island, but I still remember it being all-consuming. You want everything to be perfect. And if you don’t have a wedding planner to help you pull all of it off, that all falls on you. It’s easy to forget what the whole point of the thing is—you’re there because you love each other and want to spend the rest of your lives together.
Sometimes people come to me to help them find things on the interwebs. It’s not a widely known tidbit of information, but I spent a few years of my life working in criminal intelligence, which involved a lot of finding things and people on the internet who didn’t necessarily want to be found.
The other day, a coworker asked me to help her find the registry for a wedding she is attending this weekend. She didn’t think they had a website, and hadn’t been able to find anything online. (With my past life digging up people’s backgrounds for a living, I was obviously the go-to for this problem.)
After doing my typical searches and checking both the obvious and not-so-obvious places, I wasn’t able to come up with anything. I was stumped. (And grumpy. I don’t like when I fail at these kinds of tasks.) I begrudgingly came to the conclusion that either my skills were dulling, or the more likely option–the couple simply didn’t have a registry.
I informed my coworker that it was unlikely that this couple had a wedding registry. “But what do I get them??” she asked me with a quizzical look on her face.
While there are any number of unique wedding gifts out there just waiting to be found, I’ll save that for another post. This one is to provide options for people who don’t necessarily want to have a traditional wedding registry.-those of you out there who have all the pots, pans, towels and serving platters you need for the foreseeable future.
People like tradition. They like to give gifts, and feel like they’re doing something or contributing. And the old-fashioned tradition for weddings is to have a wedding registry. Sure, it’s pretty fun to go to the store, have them give you that little gun, and walk around shooting random barcodes on things you think you might want in your home.
But do you really need any of that stuff? So many couples are getting married later in life, after college is finished, and jobs are secure or careers well on their way. They’re often living together before officially tying the knot (which I’m a huge advocate of, but we will save that for another post as well!), and because of that, often already have many of the household items that would typically end up on their wedding registry. But just because you have all the housewares necessary for domesticated life doesn’t mean you can’t have a wedding registry. Here are some registry alternatives that will make your guests feel like they’re still contributing to your wedding day, and will still be sure to honor you in some way.
…and here comes Aunt Suzy, on her first trip to Bald Head Island, to celebrate you on your wedding day. She didn’t know she had to have closed containers and bags for the ferry, so she’s now carrying on two bags instead of one. She also wanted to make sure the bow on your wedding gift didn’t get crushed, so she’s carrying it on by hand. Or trying to anyway–cousin Johnny is tugging on her arm, asking for a snack, and pulling her bag off her shoulder trying to get to his granola bars.
Let’s help poor Aunt Suzy out, shall we? We can help her shed that wedding gift, free up her hands, and make her first trip to Bald Head Island that much more enjoyable. She can purchase a gift for you on any one of the below registries prior to traveling and mark it off her to-do list.
The New York Times recently posted an article titled “27 Ways to be a Modern Man.” (This was categorized under Men’s Style, in the “Self-Help” section.)
Normally I’m a pretty big fan of the NYT. Every media outlet has its flaws, though, and no matter how many times I read this, I just can’t take it seriously.
I’ve been married for 6 years, so maybe I’m slightly settled in my ways and my marriage, or maybe I’m just used to my husband’s ways. But I picked him for a reason–I love his ways. (That’s him, above, in all of his modernness!) I know for some people who have been married for decades, 6 years seems like nothing. But I feel like we are dance partners, and we are smoothing out and fine-tuning the dance as the years go on. (This metaphor gives me a vision of us old, dressed in a tux and a ball gown, gracefully dancing across a ballroom floor like the one in The Scent of a Woman. Considering my husband doesn’t like dancing, and neither of us know how to ballroom dance, this is not a likely scenario–but it’s a nice idea to have anyway, and a lovely vision of the metaphor for our relationship.)
Most of the things in this list are just so crazy they make me laugh out loud. So, here’s how they think your man can be a “Modern Man:”